We’ve Been Duped

Why is it that we've been so deeply conditioned to believe that a meaningful relationship with another woman - who see's and welcome's all of you - is not safe?

I mean, we don't have to look too far to see how when we were growing up what we saw on mainstream media was girls fighting over boys. Dawson's Creek, Beverly Hills 90210, Ally McBeal, Mean Girls, Clueless (must have watched this 100 times because hello! the fashion is so good) - you see what I mean.

I'm curious what British TV shows are under the same vein? I only moved here in 2004 so my British pop culture is fairly recent.

Don't even get me started on Disney - good ol' Disney - I've learnt many good things but also The Little Mermaid and the Sea Witch, the evil step mum and step sisters in Cinderella and, yes, I'm also aware that they're not all like that.

Hola! Moana - a more recent and very welcome addition to the Disney repertoire.

Still, point is we've been massively duped.

It's time we did something about it.

It's time we start re-writing our stories, for you, for us, for them.

I know there are amazing women in your life who you do have deep meaningful relationships with. They do exist - my point here is that that is seen as an exception and not a rule.

What do you say if we flip the script?

Choose to know that being in rooms with other women, even when you perceive them to be more successful, pretty, good with words, ultra-creative, sophisticated, _____________________(fill in the blank) they're there to show you something about you.

If you're available to see it in that way as opposed to she's out to get me, copy me, make me feel xyz, make me feel less than I can promise you, you'll begin to see opportunities where you saw competition.

You decide.